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You never know.

December 8, 2011 by Mary Frances 4 Comments

My father used to say, you never know when your time is up.

You never know.A dear, dear friend of mine collapsed while taking a shower Tuesday morning and died. Just like that. What started as a normal morning, waking her kids for school and getting herself ready for work, has turned the whole world upside down for so many people she knew. I had a meeting and lunch scheduled with her that very day. Our friendship spans the past 35 years, way before husbands and any kids. This has been shocking and unreal.

So tragic, so young and she leaves a wonderful husband, eleven-year old twins (boy and girl) and another son who’s 15.

But as everyone said this morning at her funeral, she lived life to the fullest. Engaging and full of energy, she also loved to cook and entertain. Throwing a dinner party for 35 and more, every holiday was the norm for her.

Together, in the 80’s, with our wide shoulder pads at work, we both cooked our way through the Silver Palate Cookbooks at home, comparing and discussing recipes.

We were both good little Midwest Christian girls who married East Coast Jewish boys. Early in our marriages, we talked about writing a cookbook together – titled: “So you married a nice Jewish boy, now what?” with tips like, don’t even think of serving ham to the in-laws at any time. And green beans with meat at Passover won’t do either, although that one I never understood.

The only lesson I can get out of this tragedy is to tell everyone you love that you love them and do it often. See your friends and family more often. Make the time. I found myself making lunch dates for next week with friends I hadn’t seen in a while. After all, your friends are your family that you choose. Be together, cook for them, gather around the table and celebrate life to the fullest, each and every day.

Filed Under: Dinner Tagged With: children, entertaining, family, friends, kids, life, love, Silver Palatte

What a difference a pie makes…

December 4, 2011 by Mary Frances 4 Comments

So we had our friends Wayne and Margaret over for dinner last night and I decided to make a pecan pie (Mrs. Fowler’s recipe, of course – in an earlier post) for dessert, since I didn’t make one for Thanksgiving.

Margaret is a terrific, accomplished baker – she makes the greatest sticky buns and coconut cakes. But I’m telling you, make a pie from scratch and everyone loves you. First thing they said when they walked in the kitchen – “oh you made a pie!!”

As I was cutting the pie into eighths, after I had served the guys, Margaret puts her hand on mine (I didn’t know if this was going to be sexy or not – just kidding) and says, “Now cut this half in thirds.” I was floored and delighted that tiny Margaret wanted a bigger piece! While eating, she then proceeded to give me her mother’s secret for her pie crust and then asked to take another piece home! I loved it!

I used the recipe from my mother for my crust. Everyone thinks making a pie crust is a super big deal. It isn’t. You need to practice a little, follow instructions closely – this is baking – so it’s different from cooking as it’s much more exacting. But boy, do it, and everyone loves you!

We brought the two pieces home tonight (Steve had another piece before breakfast) and Zach was like, “Oh you made a pie!!!”

Here’s the recipe and hopefully some helpful photos.

BASIC PIE CRUST for Two 9” Single Crusts (cut in half for one bottom crust)
2 cups flour
1 scant tsp. salt
2/3 cup of Crisco or unsalted butter, cut into very small chunks
6 or less Tbs. ice water

Whisk together flour and salt. Cut in Crisco or butter until it forms “peas, “ using a fork or two knives or a pastry thingy. Sprinkle on ice water a tablespoon at a time, tossing lightly with a fork, or even better, with your hands, combining everything well after each addition. Press dough together and form 2 flattened rounds. Wrap each round in plastic wrap and chill for at least an hour or two. Roll out quickly and lightly on a floured pastry cloth or floured board and then fold into thirds and place and shape into pie pan, fluting the edges as shown. Refrigerate overnight for a flakier crust, if you have time, or even for a couple of hours.

Line crust with parchment paper and fill with dried peas or beans. Bake at 425 degrees for 10 minutes, until lightly browned.

Carefully remove parchment filled with peas. Let cool for 15 minutes before filling. You’re a hero – you just made a crust from scratch!

Now Margaret says to take out 1/4 cup of the flour-salt mixture and mix it with 1/4 cup of ice water to make a slurry and then add that back in gradually to everything. I will try this the next time and see. Margaret has this German heritage and you know they know everything about making great pastries!

Unbaked pie crust

Unbaked pie crust

Unbaked pie crust with dried peas on a wooden cutting board.

Pie crust with dried peas

Partially baked pie crust on a white table.

Partially baked crust

Pecan pie.

Finished pecan pie

Filed Under: Desserts Tagged With: bakers, Crisco, flakey, hero, love, pastry, pecan pie, pie crust, scratch

Happy Thanksgiving!!!

November 24, 2011 by Mary Frances 2 Comments

I hope you all are enjoying the day!!

I wanted to share this with you – from Carol Meyer

May we open ourselves ever more fully to that Eternal Mystery which lures us onward toward life and creativity.

May we find the courage to live our faith, to speak our truth, and to strive together for a world where freedom abounds and justice truly does roll down like water.

May we know the fullness of love without fear, and the serenity of peace without turmoil.

May we hold one another in the deep and tender places with compassion, and may we grace one another by sharing our own vulnerabilities, being ever mindful of the divinity within that makes soulmates of us all.

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Filed Under: Dinner Tagged With: compassion, courage, creativity, faith, freedom, justice, life, love, peace, serenity, sharing, soulmates, truth

One dish meals

October 15, 2011 by Mary Frances Leave a Comment

I was just thinking how much I love one dish meals for weeknights. What could be simpler? You’ve got your carbohydrates, vegetables and proteins all in one. You can serve it in a lovely flat soup bowl and hopefully the recipe will only cause one or two pots to be dirtied, so clean up is a breeze as well. The Pasta with Broccoli Rabe and Chicken Sausage recipe in my last entry is a good example but there are so many. Gnocchi with Shrimp and Snowpeas, Veal Stew with Rosemary and Lemon on Polenta, Orecchiette with Shrimp and Broccoli Rabe, all listed earlier here are other great ones. Think of the many combinations you can make – use your imagination. Combine things you love and you won’t go wrong. Remember to relax, have fun, and pour love into it!Farfalle with lamb sausage and escarole.

Farfalle with lamb sausage and escarole.

Filed Under: Dinner Tagged With: broccoli rabe, chicken sausage, gnocchi, lemon, love, one dish meals, pasta, polenta, rosemary, shrimp, snowpeas, veal

You have to love it

September 11, 2011 by Mary Frances 3 Comments

I am convinced, that in order to be a great cook, you have to make something you love, to be able to put love into it and serve fantastic food. You have to be excited to eat what you are cooking. I am fortunate in that my family members are foodies. They pretty much like everything, except for Zach, who does not like fruit, except for apples. Don’t ask me why. But he does love this curry shrimp appetizer dish that I make with a mango dipping sauce. He doesn’t know it’s mango chutney in there. (hope he’s not reading this) And the older one will even eat pigs feet and sweetbreads!

But seriously, you are what you eat and you have to like what you cook. So when I’m trying to figure out what to make for dinner, sometimes I imagine myself reading a restaurant menu, trying to figure out what would appeal to me and then I go make it. I always buy what looks luscious and then figure out what to do with it later. I also cook by color – the plate must look great too. After all, I am a designer and a painter.

Food appeals to you on at least 3 levels – sight, smell and taste. Make those work to the best of your advantage. Always buy red peppers and tomatoes – you’ll probably need a little red during the week!

However, I must admit, there are two foods I cannot muster any excitement for – collard greens and kasha. Kasha tastes like little pieces of cardboard and collard greens – to be able to chew them – you have to cook them until they’re this lurid color of green that I just can’t stomach.

I am open to any ideas though.

tomatoes and sorrel.

Filed Under: Dinner Tagged With: color, love, mango, shrimp

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